Sometimes, clients tell me about their "dream" date. They have a very specific type of partner in mind, which is good to have--the more specific the better (since I always recommend getting super-clear on the qualities that are most compatible with you before going out there to look).
But some people take it too far.
They fixate on certain appearance traits or maybe even a celebrity they're enamored with--and then try to find someone who's exactly like that. Which, of course, is unrealistic and inevitably sets them up for disappointment when they can't bring their "fantasy" to life.
In fact, fantasies can definitely get in the way of success in the real world. Especially with regard to dating.
There are 3 reasons why:
1) People set the bar way too high by comparing everyone they meet to their fantasy woman or man. And, of course, no mere mortal will ever measure up.
2) They might spend so much time daydreaming about their fantasy that they don't make time to go out in the dating world or online to start meeting real people.
3) They could get so caught up in the fantasy that they're thinking only about that fantasy person and, as a result, aren't actually emotionally available for a real-world relationship.
This is very unfortunate, but it's also fixable. The solution? The person just has to let the fantasy go and get real. Easier said than done for some people. In extreme cases, they might actually reach out to their fantasy lover and then get rejected--which naturally damages both their self-esteem and their dating confidence.
And, since confidence is 70% of the success formula for dating, this makes in almost impossible for them to be successful going forward. How can they present themselves well to potential dates in situations such as singles groups, online dating profiles, and other places in the real world when they feel like a loser in the fantasy world of their mind?
Short answer: they can't.
The moral of this story is that singles need to make sure they're being realistic about the type of partner they think they can attract. Otherwise, they're setting themselves up for rejection and, in turn, sabotaging themselves by damaging the all-important confidence needed for dating success.
How about you? Are you holding onto a fantasy that might be hindering you from moving forward in your dating search? If so, let me know. I'd be happy to support you in releasing it so you can succeed with dating. (267-245-3023 or gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com)
Monday, September 23, 2019
Friday, August 16, 2019
4 REASONS YOU NEED A PARTNER VISION LIST
I ask every client who hires me for dating coaching whether they have a Partner Vision List--a detailed description of the characteristics they seek in a partner.
Believe it or not, many of them don't have one...and that's a big mistake. Without my Partner Vision, I know I never would have found the love of my life.
Here are 4 reasons why I urge you to make that list right away:
1. It gives you clarity.
How are you going to FIND what you want if you don't KNOW what you want? Hasn't every dream or desire you've ever had started with an idea in your mind or a feeling in your heart about whatever you envisioned: the type of job you wanted, the kind of car you desired, the style of house you dreamed about? And didn't you find it was much more likely you'd realize those dreams once you clearly defined them?
The same is true about your romantic partner. Having a clear vision of that person (written down on paper) makes it far more likely you'll be able to spot him or her when he or she crosses your path.
2. It helps you focus better.
How are you going to meet people for dating unless you focus time and attention on that effort and focus on the types of places where you're likeliest to meet compatible people? Your Partner Vision provides much-needed focus too. The list gives you something to focus on when you're setting your intention and/or saying your prayers for partnership. I kept my list in my bedside table to focus on during nighttime prayers, and I taped it to my computer so I could keep the vision of my future partner top of mind while I was at work all day--a great manifestation tool to support the Law of Attraction.
3. It signals how serious you are about finding a partner.
In addition, your written manifestation tool sends a powerful message to God/Your Higher Power that you are determined to attract a partner into your life. Anyone with a successful business will tell you it all started with a clear, written business plan. With a well-thought-out "blueprint" of your ideal partner on paper, your chances of success increase exponentially!
4. It gives you an important and helpful reference point. Every time you meet a new person on a dating site or at an event or activity, you can refer back to your list to determine if he or she has most of the qualities you know are compatible with you in a partner. That way, you won't be swayed by and taken in by someone's looks or charm even though he or she isn't right for you. You'll be able to rationally decide if it's worth pursuing this new person and not spend unnecessary time with people who aren't a match--a trap many of my clients fall into and then regret.
Though it might sound analytical and methodical to use a written list to help you find a partner, it's just common sense--a practical tool to help make a complicated task easier.
Or, if you think you already have a clear Partner Vision in your mind, write it down. Then enhance it with more than just appearance, age, and personality traits. List the values, philosophies of life, and dating behaviors you wish for in a partner too. The more detailed and specific, the better!
If you need help fleshing out your list, give me call (267-245-3023) or email me gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com. I'd love to help you!
Believe it or not, many of them don't have one...and that's a big mistake. Without my Partner Vision, I know I never would have found the love of my life.
Here are 4 reasons why I urge you to make that list right away:
1. It gives you clarity.
How are you going to FIND what you want if you don't KNOW what you want? Hasn't every dream or desire you've ever had started with an idea in your mind or a feeling in your heart about whatever you envisioned: the type of job you wanted, the kind of car you desired, the style of house you dreamed about? And didn't you find it was much more likely you'd realize those dreams once you clearly defined them?
The same is true about your romantic partner. Having a clear vision of that person (written down on paper) makes it far more likely you'll be able to spot him or her when he or she crosses your path.
2. It helps you focus better.
How are you going to meet people for dating unless you focus time and attention on that effort and focus on the types of places where you're likeliest to meet compatible people? Your Partner Vision provides much-needed focus too. The list gives you something to focus on when you're setting your intention and/or saying your prayers for partnership. I kept my list in my bedside table to focus on during nighttime prayers, and I taped it to my computer so I could keep the vision of my future partner top of mind while I was at work all day--a great manifestation tool to support the Law of Attraction.
3. It signals how serious you are about finding a partner.
In addition, your written manifestation tool sends a powerful message to God/Your Higher Power that you are determined to attract a partner into your life. Anyone with a successful business will tell you it all started with a clear, written business plan. With a well-thought-out "blueprint" of your ideal partner on paper, your chances of success increase exponentially!
4. It gives you an important and helpful reference point. Every time you meet a new person on a dating site or at an event or activity, you can refer back to your list to determine if he or she has most of the qualities you know are compatible with you in a partner. That way, you won't be swayed by and taken in by someone's looks or charm even though he or she isn't right for you. You'll be able to rationally decide if it's worth pursuing this new person and not spend unnecessary time with people who aren't a match--a trap many of my clients fall into and then regret.
Though it might sound analytical and methodical to use a written list to help you find a partner, it's just common sense--a practical tool to help make a complicated task easier.
Or, if you think you already have a clear Partner Vision in your mind, write it down. Then enhance it with more than just appearance, age, and personality traits. List the values, philosophies of life, and dating behaviors you wish for in a partner too. The more detailed and specific, the better!
If you need help fleshing out your list, give me call (267-245-3023) or email me gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com. I'd love to help you!
Thursday, July 18, 2019
DO YOU EVEN HAVE TIME FOR DATING?
Often, clients who haven't been in the dating world for ages ask me how much time the dating search will take. My simple answer is "more than you might think."
Why do I say that? Because, if you want to find a compatible person, it's smart to look in lots of places and/or to try lots of online dating websites. And then to try some more venues and more websites...and to continue that strategy week after week, month after month...until you cross paths with someone who's as interested in you as our are in him/her.
That takes time....and patience.
It means you need to set aside some hours for 2 things:
1) Sitting at your computer to peruse profiles and write emails and later having phone calls and meetings over coffee if you want success with online dating
2) Checking the newspaper and sites like Bucks County Alive.com (here in PA) and meetup.com for ideas of places to go to meet folks in person, such as singles groups and hobby activities...and then leaving your house at least twice a month to check these things out
If your life is super-busy because you have too many obligations, such as kids, elderly parents, a disorganized home or office, or long hours at work, it's unrealistic to think you can devote the time you'll need to search for dating prospects and then go on actual dates. And, if you do try to make the time, you'll probably be stressed out as a result.
The answer? Get all the other "ducks in a row" in your life (with a nice balance between work and family) first, before you even think about dating. Then, and only then, can you fully focus your attention on your dating life. And, believe me, if you're looking for love, that pursuit needs and deserves your FULL attention!
By full attention, I mean that you put a little effort into it every day. That could mean spending 15 minutes to search online and send an email or two...or to research some groups or events to attend over the weekend or next week.
It could mean spending 10 minutes each day to respond to whatever emails you get on an online dating site..or having a phone call with someone you've exchanged emails with. (And then, of course, setting aside an hour within a week or so to have coffee or tea with an online prospect you clicked with on the phone).
Or it could mean spending 2 or 3 hours on a Saturday or Sunday attending a singles hike, wine tasting, dance, or other social event. Or the same amount of time checking out an art gallery, museum, movie premier, sporting event, arts festival, garden tour, or other outing related to your hobbies/passions.
You get the idea. Time needs to be carved out...and you need to commit yourself to periodically trying new things so you can cross paths with new people.
If you'd like an assessment of whether you're ready for dating yet and whether you can realistically devote the time to it, let me know. I'd be happy to help you determine your readiness...and then a dating game plan for when you ARE ready. gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com or 267-245-3023
Why do I say that? Because, if you want to find a compatible person, it's smart to look in lots of places and/or to try lots of online dating websites. And then to try some more venues and more websites...and to continue that strategy week after week, month after month...until you cross paths with someone who's as interested in you as our are in him/her.
That takes time....and patience.
It means you need to set aside some hours for 2 things:
1) Sitting at your computer to peruse profiles and write emails and later having phone calls and meetings over coffee if you want success with online dating
2) Checking the newspaper and sites like Bucks County Alive.com (here in PA) and meetup.com for ideas of places to go to meet folks in person, such as singles groups and hobby activities...and then leaving your house at least twice a month to check these things out
If your life is super-busy because you have too many obligations, such as kids, elderly parents, a disorganized home or office, or long hours at work, it's unrealistic to think you can devote the time you'll need to search for dating prospects and then go on actual dates. And, if you do try to make the time, you'll probably be stressed out as a result.
The answer? Get all the other "ducks in a row" in your life (with a nice balance between work and family) first, before you even think about dating. Then, and only then, can you fully focus your attention on your dating life. And, believe me, if you're looking for love, that pursuit needs and deserves your FULL attention!
By full attention, I mean that you put a little effort into it every day. That could mean spending 15 minutes to search online and send an email or two...or to research some groups or events to attend over the weekend or next week.
It could mean spending 10 minutes each day to respond to whatever emails you get on an online dating site..or having a phone call with someone you've exchanged emails with. (And then, of course, setting aside an hour within a week or so to have coffee or tea with an online prospect you clicked with on the phone).
Or it could mean spending 2 or 3 hours on a Saturday or Sunday attending a singles hike, wine tasting, dance, or other social event. Or the same amount of time checking out an art gallery, museum, movie premier, sporting event, arts festival, garden tour, or other outing related to your hobbies/passions.
You get the idea. Time needs to be carved out...and you need to commit yourself to periodically trying new things so you can cross paths with new people.
If you'd like an assessment of whether you're ready for dating yet and whether you can realistically devote the time to it, let me know. I'd be happy to help you determine your readiness...and then a dating game plan for when you ARE ready. gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com or 267-245-3023
Monday, July 15, 2019
How Flexible Are You About Who You Date?
Are you an over-50 divorced or widowed person who's been told you're "too picky"? Are you somewhat inflexible about the parameters you set for the type of folks you'll consider dating?
You are if you say something like this (which are statements I often hear from my older dating coaching clients):
"I've had a lot of dating experience and know what I want. I won't settle."
"I'm too old to play games. I just want people to be honest with me."
"I have to be attracted to the other person right away; otherwise, I know it won't work."
All of these sound like reasonable statements that are based on above-average knowledge of the dating world. But, in my opinion, they reflect a lack of the open-mindedness that is absolutely necessary in order to meet and date an interesting array of people.
"I won't settle" -- This statement is often indicative of a person who's not willing to reserve judgment until getting to know more about someone and, ultimately, to compromise with others to find a middle ground on whatever comes up in a relationship. I'm not saying you shouldn't have a clear "partner vision" and hold out for what you truly desire in a partner, but it helps you date more if you're open to different types of people. Often, the right person for you may not seem like a match at first but could reveal him or herself to be just that after a little time passes.
"I just want honesty." -- This is understandable, but you need to remember that people are putting their best foot forward in the beginning. They are presenting the most-positive picture of themselves in order to make a good first impression on you. And trust must grow between the two of you before he or she is comfortable being completely honest and, thus, vulnerable. Of course, I'm not saying you should tolerate people who are "playing games", lying, or not being forthcoming with you. But it helps to give others the benefit of the doubt regarding their behavior in the dating world. Many older singles are nervous, insecure, and inexperienced, especially if it's been a long time since they dated.
"I have to be immediately attracted." -- I agree that you should feel a comfort level and/or a warmth and some sort of connection with a dating prospect when you first meet. But actual sexual attraction may not develop until the second, third, or even fourth date. This happened to me with a couple of the men I dated...and later on, we had a wonderful physical relationship. The most important feeling you want to experience at first is pleasure being in that person's company...and the desire to see him or her again. I recommend giving each person you feel okay about a chance to "grow on" you. In my experience, getting to know the person better in terms of sense of humor and personality can reveal aspects that are more attractive than they seemed at first.
So, how flexible are you really? Be honest with yourself. If you determine you need to be more open-minded about the folks you meet in the dating world, let me know. I can definitely support you in that process...and ultimately help you have more success finding great people to date! (267-245-3023 or gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com
Tuesday, June 25, 2019
AVOID THESE 3 UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS IN THE OVER-50 DATING WORLD
If you're over 50, how realistic do you think you are about the people you'll meet in the dating world? If you answer yes to any of these questions, you may not be realistic at all:
1) My date needs to be as good-looking or better looking than my last partner.
2) My date should be willing to make me the first priority in his/her life.
3) My date should be ready to go to bed with me by the third date.
Sounds crazy, right? But I can assure you I've worked with clients who had one or all of these expectations when they came to me for coaching, and my job was to help them do "a reality check".
LOOKS-In the first situation, some people set the bar way too high when it comes to looks and/or put far too much emphasis on appearance. Which makes very little sense for older daters who aren't the smooth-skinned "spring chickens" they once were.
Men and women are both guilty of this. How realistic is it, as one 50-something widower told me, to expect the women he dates now to have "a bikini body, just like my wife did"? (Note: his wife died in her 40s and never had any children.) And how realistic is it for a 60-something woman to expect a man her age to "have no beer belly" and to be as fit and health-minded as she is?
What I suggest: I try to help both these types of people get real about the small minority of single people over 50 who fit those descriptions and encourage them to be more open-minded about appearance. I work with them on focusing instead on dating people with shared values, common interests, and similar lifestyles. You definitely can't tell a book by its cover.
PRIORITIES-In the second situation, I've had male clients bemoan the fact that women over 50 seem to be so busy with family, friends, jobs, volunteering, grandkids, hobbies, and traveling that they don't have time for a man in their life. The truth is that those women are often filling up their lives with people and activities so they won't be bored and lonely waiting for a man to appear. And, in general, men don't have as many friends to spend time with, and so they want their partners to be more available and to make them more of a priority. This is especially problematic if a man is already retired and his date isn't.
What I suggest: I encourage my overly busy female clients to carve out enough free time for both the dating search and actual dating...and tell them to keep in mind that a man wants to feel important in a woman's life. I encourage the men to create their own fun life, find ways to make more guy friends to do things with, and, when dating, to offer to get involved with the activities their lady loves.
SEX-I'd like to know who came up with this "3-date rule" thing. It can really mess up a potentially good relationship.
What I suggest: It's wiser for both men and women to have no expectations, agenda, or timeline when it comes to intimacy. Let things flow naturally as caring and affection grow. A man putting pressure on a woman to have sex before she's ready (ie, feels an emotional connection to him) is not only counterproductive, but it borders on being coercive. Likewise, a woman who gives in and has sex just to ensure the man won't leave is fooling herself. He may get what he wants and leave anyway because he has not yet developed feelings for her.
How about you? How realistic are your expectations in these 3 areas and other aspects of dating? If you might need a reality check to improve your chances of meeting a good match, let me know. I'd be happy to help!
gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com or 267-245-3023
1) My date needs to be as good-looking or better looking than my last partner.
2) My date should be willing to make me the first priority in his/her life.
3) My date should be ready to go to bed with me by the third date.
Sounds crazy, right? But I can assure you I've worked with clients who had one or all of these expectations when they came to me for coaching, and my job was to help them do "a reality check".
LOOKS-In the first situation, some people set the bar way too high when it comes to looks and/or put far too much emphasis on appearance. Which makes very little sense for older daters who aren't the smooth-skinned "spring chickens" they once were.
Men and women are both guilty of this. How realistic is it, as one 50-something widower told me, to expect the women he dates now to have "a bikini body, just like my wife did"? (Note: his wife died in her 40s and never had any children.) And how realistic is it for a 60-something woman to expect a man her age to "have no beer belly" and to be as fit and health-minded as she is?
What I suggest: I try to help both these types of people get real about the small minority of single people over 50 who fit those descriptions and encourage them to be more open-minded about appearance. I work with them on focusing instead on dating people with shared values, common interests, and similar lifestyles. You definitely can't tell a book by its cover.
PRIORITIES-In the second situation, I've had male clients bemoan the fact that women over 50 seem to be so busy with family, friends, jobs, volunteering, grandkids, hobbies, and traveling that they don't have time for a man in their life. The truth is that those women are often filling up their lives with people and activities so they won't be bored and lonely waiting for a man to appear. And, in general, men don't have as many friends to spend time with, and so they want their partners to be more available and to make them more of a priority. This is especially problematic if a man is already retired and his date isn't.
What I suggest: I encourage my overly busy female clients to carve out enough free time for both the dating search and actual dating...and tell them to keep in mind that a man wants to feel important in a woman's life. I encourage the men to create their own fun life, find ways to make more guy friends to do things with, and, when dating, to offer to get involved with the activities their lady loves.
SEX-I'd like to know who came up with this "3-date rule" thing. It can really mess up a potentially good relationship.
What I suggest: It's wiser for both men and women to have no expectations, agenda, or timeline when it comes to intimacy. Let things flow naturally as caring and affection grow. A man putting pressure on a woman to have sex before she's ready (ie, feels an emotional connection to him) is not only counterproductive, but it borders on being coercive. Likewise, a woman who gives in and has sex just to ensure the man won't leave is fooling herself. He may get what he wants and leave anyway because he has not yet developed feelings for her.
How about you? How realistic are your expectations in these 3 areas and other aspects of dating? If you might need a reality check to improve your chances of meeting a good match, let me know. I'd be happy to help!
gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com or 267-245-3023
Friday, June 21, 2019
WHY DO ONLINE PROSPECTS SEEM INTERESTED & THEN DISAPPEAR?
This is the #1 question I get as a dating coach. "Why do people email, call, and and even have a couple of meetings and then disappear for days or weeks at a time?"
A recent article I read calls this "cookie jarring" (https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/what-cookie-jarring-have-you-been-victim-dating-trend-ncna1018471) and says that, though it's common for folks in the online dating world to "play the field" and date a few people at once while trying to decide which one feels like the best fit, there's an unfortunate new trend in which someone will string others along as "backups" while they're focusing their real efforts on someone else.
Similar to the way we might reach for a cookie when want a pick-me-up, the "cookie-jarrer" reaches out to his/her backup person when he/she starts to feel unsure about where the other relationship is headed, when the person he/she is pursuing isn't available, or after he/she has been rejected. In short, the cookier-jarrer is an insecure person who needs a "security blanket" and a contingency plan with someone else just in case the current dating relationship doesn't work out.
The clients who come to me (the aforementioned "backups") are understandably confused and not very happy about the way they're being treated (ie, the pursuer isn't keeping in good touch, suggesting a date, or sounding at all enthused about learning more about them).
Sadly, these folks aren't immediately aware they're being kept on the "back burner". The pursuer dangles just enough "crumbs" to lead them to believe he/she is actually interested in moving to the next stage after a few emails, phone calls, or even get-togethers. But then nothing happens. The pursuer stops emailing/calling, doesn't arrange an actual date, and then disappears.
Here are the signs you're being "cookie-jarred":
1) The pursuer never wants to make a definite plan with you for a specific day or time but instead suggests coming over to your house on the spur of the moment
2) The pursuer doesn't make an effort to keep in touch with you and expects you to do all the contacting
3) There are big gaps in time between texts or emails
4) The pursuer avoids or gets defensive about conversations re: defining the relationship
5) The pursuer doesn't seem to be free on weekends
6) You sense that the pursuer is overly needy or insecure
If any of these things have happened to you, my best advice is for you to disappear too. Stop emailing or texting or calling to find out what happened. Just move on.
Don't waste your precious time chasing after someone who's evasive, inconsiderate, or even rude about following up with you. Accept the fact that he/she just isn't interested (or, in truth, isn't mature and empathetic enough to think of the way his/her actions are impacting you).
By moving on, you free up the time and energy you need to find someone else who IS interested!
If you need direction or support in how to do that, give me a call (267-245-3023) or email me (gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com). I'd love to help!
A recent article I read calls this "cookie jarring" (https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/what-cookie-jarring-have-you-been-victim-dating-trend-ncna1018471) and says that, though it's common for folks in the online dating world to "play the field" and date a few people at once while trying to decide which one feels like the best fit, there's an unfortunate new trend in which someone will string others along as "backups" while they're focusing their real efforts on someone else.
Similar to the way we might reach for a cookie when want a pick-me-up, the "cookie-jarrer" reaches out to his/her backup person when he/she starts to feel unsure about where the other relationship is headed, when the person he/she is pursuing isn't available, or after he/she has been rejected. In short, the cookier-jarrer is an insecure person who needs a "security blanket" and a contingency plan with someone else just in case the current dating relationship doesn't work out.
The clients who come to me (the aforementioned "backups") are understandably confused and not very happy about the way they're being treated (ie, the pursuer isn't keeping in good touch, suggesting a date, or sounding at all enthused about learning more about them).
Sadly, these folks aren't immediately aware they're being kept on the "back burner". The pursuer dangles just enough "crumbs" to lead them to believe he/she is actually interested in moving to the next stage after a few emails, phone calls, or even get-togethers. But then nothing happens. The pursuer stops emailing/calling, doesn't arrange an actual date, and then disappears.
Here are the signs you're being "cookie-jarred":
1) The pursuer never wants to make a definite plan with you for a specific day or time but instead suggests coming over to your house on the spur of the moment
2) The pursuer doesn't make an effort to keep in touch with you and expects you to do all the contacting
3) There are big gaps in time between texts or emails
4) The pursuer avoids or gets defensive about conversations re: defining the relationship
5) The pursuer doesn't seem to be free on weekends
6) You sense that the pursuer is overly needy or insecure
If any of these things have happened to you, my best advice is for you to disappear too. Stop emailing or texting or calling to find out what happened. Just move on.
Don't waste your precious time chasing after someone who's evasive, inconsiderate, or even rude about following up with you. Accept the fact that he/she just isn't interested (or, in truth, isn't mature and empathetic enough to think of the way his/her actions are impacting you).
By moving on, you free up the time and energy you need to find someone else who IS interested!
If you need direction or support in how to do that, give me a call (267-245-3023) or email me (gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com). I'd love to help!
Thursday, April 25, 2019
5 DATING APPS YOU MAY NOT HAVE HEARD OF
Looking for some alternatives to online dating or dating apps like Tinder?
A recent article in a Philadelphia-area newspaper outlined 5 apps that you could try if you're looking for a partner:
Double
This app lets you have a date in a group. It provides a safe way to meet people offline, and it also means you're more likely to get to know those who might interest you. It also helps you avoid the possible awkwardness of an individual meeting with a brand new person.
Swoonbox
This is the world's first event-based dating mobile app integrated into TicketMaster, TicketNetwork, Spotify, and Fandango. Using "deep learning", it matches you with others interested in the same music, sports, and other kinds of entertainment--so you can meet up with these folks in real life as quickly as possible.
Do I Date
This app's goal is to give you much more information and transparency about your possible meeting with someone before you go. It brings an unprecedented level of openness to dates because, on this platform, you can review and share past dating experiences--good or bad--for the benefit of others.
Now
Immediacy is the big advantage of this app. It allows you to find someone who is free and willing to do an activity at a specific time. So, if you happen to have a couple of free hours and nothing to do, you can meet up with others and suggest an activity idea.
OKCupid
In addition to being an online dating site, OKCupid offers an app. It gives more importance to the ideas and thoughts of its users than to their photos. According to its creators, it uses algorithms and information provided by users through questionnaires to arrange the perfect match.
Have you tried a dating app yet? If so, drop me a line to tell me about your experience (gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com).
If you haven't, you might want to consider branching out in that direction. In the dating world, it always pays to be open-minded and try new things--so you can cross paths with new people!
A recent article in a Philadelphia-area newspaper outlined 5 apps that you could try if you're looking for a partner:
Double
This app lets you have a date in a group. It provides a safe way to meet people offline, and it also means you're more likely to get to know those who might interest you. It also helps you avoid the possible awkwardness of an individual meeting with a brand new person.
Swoonbox
This is the world's first event-based dating mobile app integrated into TicketMaster, TicketNetwork, Spotify, and Fandango. Using "deep learning", it matches you with others interested in the same music, sports, and other kinds of entertainment--so you can meet up with these folks in real life as quickly as possible.
Do I Date
This app's goal is to give you much more information and transparency about your possible meeting with someone before you go. It brings an unprecedented level of openness to dates because, on this platform, you can review and share past dating experiences--good or bad--for the benefit of others.
Now
Immediacy is the big advantage of this app. It allows you to find someone who is free and willing to do an activity at a specific time. So, if you happen to have a couple of free hours and nothing to do, you can meet up with others and suggest an activity idea.
OKCupid
In addition to being an online dating site, OKCupid offers an app. It gives more importance to the ideas and thoughts of its users than to their photos. According to its creators, it uses algorithms and information provided by users through questionnaires to arrange the perfect match.
Have you tried a dating app yet? If so, drop me a line to tell me about your experience (gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com).
If you haven't, you might want to consider branching out in that direction. In the dating world, it always pays to be open-minded and try new things--so you can cross paths with new people!
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