4 REASONS YOU NEED A PARTNER VISION LIST

I ask every client who hires me for dating coaching whether they have a Partner Vision List--a detailed description of the characteristics they seek in a partner.

Believe it or not, many of them don't have one...and that's a big mistake. Without my Partner Vision, I know I never would have found the love of my life.

Here are 4 reasons why I urge you to make that list right away:
1. It gives you clarity.
How are you going to FIND what you want if you don't KNOW what you want? Hasn't every dream or desire you've ever had started with an idea in your mind or a feeling in your heart about whatever you envisioned: the type of job you wanted, the kind of car you desired, the style of house you dreamed about? And didn't you find it was much more likely you'd realize those dreams once you clearly defined them?

The same is true about your romantic partner. Having a clear vision of that person (written down on paper) makes it far more likely you'll be able to spot him or her when he or she crosses your path.

2. It helps you focus better.
How are you going to meet people for dating unless you focus time and attention on that effort and focus on the types of places where you're likeliest to meet compatible people? Your Partner Vision provides much-needed focus too. The list gives you something to focus on when you're setting your intention and/or saying your prayers for partnership. I kept my list in my bedside table to focus on during nighttime prayers, and I taped it to my computer so I could keep the vision of my future partner top of mind while I was at work all day--a great manifestation tool to support the Law of Attraction. 

3. It signals how serious you are about finding a partner.
In addition, your written manifestation tool sends a powerful message to God/Your Higher Power that you are determined to attract a partner into your life. Anyone with a successful business will tell you it all started with a clear, written business plan. With a well-thought-out "blueprint" of your ideal partner on paper, your chances of success increase exponentially!

4. It gives you an important and helpful reference point. Every time you meet a new person on a dating site or at an event or activity, you can refer back to your list to determine if he or she has most of the qualities you know are compatible with you in a partner. That way, you won't be swayed by and taken in by someone's looks or charm even though he or she isn't right for you. You'll be able to rationally decide if it's worth pursuing this new person and not spend unnecessary time with people who aren't a match--a trap many of my clients fall into and then regret. 

Though it might sound analytical and methodical to use a written list to help you find a partner, it's just common sense--a practical tool to help make a complicated task easier. 

Or, if you think you already have a clear Partner Vision in your mind, write it down. Then enhance it with more than just appearance, age, and personality traits. List the values, philosophies of life, and dating behaviors you wish for in a partner too. The more detailed and specific, the better!

If you need help fleshing out your list, give me call (267-245-3023) or email me gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com. I'd love to help you!