Was 2019 a "ho-hum" year for you in terms of dating? Need a pick-me-up and a fresh start to get you energized again? I understand how that can be, and I'm here to help.
My first suggestion is to look at 2020 as a new opportunity to redefine your dating strategy and outlook. Here are some good ways to start:
1) Get healthy! Do what you need to for your physical, mental, emotional health so you have the energy, self-confidence, and enthusiasm you'll need to venture into the dating world.
2) Get positive! Find ways to have fun and be passionate about something. Join a group or club or take a class that excites you. There's nothing more attractive than someone who's happy, active, and enjoying life.
3) Get involved! Interact with others who are making a positive difference in your community or area. This will get you revved up about life again and help you cross paths with new people--new friends to accompany you to singles activities and possibly even potential dates.
4) Try something totally new! We all know the definition of insanity is doing the same thing you did before and expecting different results. That's why you need to try a new singles activity, hobby group, or online dating site every month (or as often as possible; I can help you find these). Leave your 2019 strategy behind. Mix it up in this new year! That's the only way to meet people you've never met before.
5) Relax! Don't fixate on finding "the one" or beat yourself up every time a singles event or online dating site doesn't work out. It's not a life-or-death matter if someone doesn't respond to your email or in-person flirtation. And it doesn't help if you take it personally. Keep your sense of humor about it, learn from the situation, and try again later.
Ready to reignite your dating life? I can help make that happen! Contact me to keep you on track and motivated to use these 5 strategies. Call or email me today!
(267-245-3023; gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com)
Wednesday, January 29, 2020
Friday, January 24, 2020
DATING TIPS FOR WOMEN FROM MEN
In my dating days, I found it valuable to ask my men friends for tips about dating. Getting their point of view really helped me see the dating world in a new light. I'm sure it can help you single ladies too. Read on...
Here is some valuable advice from a survey of over 3,000 men done by dating website Zoosk:
1) Feel free to make the first move.
The survey showed that men overwhelmingly love it if you initiate things:
o 94% of men like it when a woman approaches them first in a social setting.
o 96% of guys prefer it when a woman emails them first on a dating website.
It's true. Men like an assertive woman who knows what she wants. So, go ahead, ladies! Don't be afraid to reach out first. That's what I always did online, and it helped me meet all the men I dated since 2001, including my current partner.
2) Honesty is just as important as attraction.
The survey showed that:
o 33% of men listed attraction as the #1 quality they seek in a woman.
o 31% listed honesty as the #1 quality.
3) Know what you want but be open-minded.
It's good to be clear about the traits you want in a partner, but try not to make snap judgments about a man's long-term potential after just one conversation. Give guys a chance to reveal more about themselves.
4) Talk about your hobbies and interests.
This is a topic men are interested in during the first conversation in person or the first email online. They're curious about how much they have in common with you and what you enjoy doing in your free time.
5) If you're interested, let him know...and be direct rather than subtle.
Men want to know it's okay to talk to you, so you need to directly indicate that you've noticed him. A sincere compliment is a good way to do this.
6) Online, mention something specific that you liked about his profile.
Again, I recommend a sincere compliment about something that impressed you. And then men suggest that you add something unique about you too.
7) Be who you are, not who you think he wants you to be.
Men like it when women are confident enough to be authentic. Don't be afraid to just be you. If you're not his cup of tea, it's nothing personal. Just not a click.
8) Leave the past behind.
Don't talk about past relationships or problems when you first meet. There will be time for that later as you're getting to know and trust each other.
All good advice, in my opinion. Thanks, guys! If you're a woman who struggles with any of these things, let me know. I can help you feel more comfortable with the dating process...so you can start meeting nice guys like the ones who offered all these helpful tips.
Contact me at gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com or 267-245-3023
Here is some valuable advice from a survey of over 3,000 men done by dating website Zoosk:
1) Feel free to make the first move.
The survey showed that men overwhelmingly love it if you initiate things:
o 94% of men like it when a woman approaches them first in a social setting.
o 96% of guys prefer it when a woman emails them first on a dating website.
It's true. Men like an assertive woman who knows what she wants. So, go ahead, ladies! Don't be afraid to reach out first. That's what I always did online, and it helped me meet all the men I dated since 2001, including my current partner.
2) Honesty is just as important as attraction.
The survey showed that:
o 33% of men listed attraction as the #1 quality they seek in a woman.
o 31% listed honesty as the #1 quality.
3) Know what you want but be open-minded.
It's good to be clear about the traits you want in a partner, but try not to make snap judgments about a man's long-term potential after just one conversation. Give guys a chance to reveal more about themselves.
4) Talk about your hobbies and interests.
This is a topic men are interested in during the first conversation in person or the first email online. They're curious about how much they have in common with you and what you enjoy doing in your free time.
5) If you're interested, let him know...and be direct rather than subtle.
Men want to know it's okay to talk to you, so you need to directly indicate that you've noticed him. A sincere compliment is a good way to do this.
6) Online, mention something specific that you liked about his profile.
Again, I recommend a sincere compliment about something that impressed you. And then men suggest that you add something unique about you too.
7) Be who you are, not who you think he wants you to be.
Men like it when women are confident enough to be authentic. Don't be afraid to just be you. If you're not his cup of tea, it's nothing personal. Just not a click.
8) Leave the past behind.
Don't talk about past relationships or problems when you first meet. There will be time for that later as you're getting to know and trust each other.
All good advice, in my opinion. Thanks, guys! If you're a woman who struggles with any of these things, let me know. I can help you feel more comfortable with the dating process...so you can start meeting nice guys like the ones who offered all these helpful tips.
Contact me at gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com or 267-245-3023
Monday, January 20, 2020
POSITIVE "VIBES" ARE CRUCIAL FOR DATING SUCCESS
What kinds of "vibes" are you putting out into the world when you think about dating? Positive or negative? Optimistic or pessimistic? Enthusiasm or dread?
I'm sure you can guess which ones are most likely to attract dating partners into your life.
But how often do you check in with yourself to assess your attitude and frame of mind about being in the dating world? How many times do you remember venturing out there with a downbeat persona because you weren't feeling very optimistic about your chances of success and the types of people you'd meet?
If your answer is "fairly often," you are your own worst enemy in your dating effort.
But I'm here to remind you that you can change that attitude...and ultimately have more good experiences than you've had up until now.
The secret? Shift your mind-set from dread to excitement by looking at the big picture: dating is an ADVENTURE that will teach you a lot about yourself, the opposite sex, and dating overall. And adventures can be fun, right? Right!
Think of a baby learning to walk. She takes a step or two and falls down. She gets up and takes another step or three and almost falls but manages to catch herself. She keeps trying over and over again. She doesn't focus on the falls. She keeps looking ahead of her.
She's just excited to be on her 2 feet walking on her own toward her dad's outstretched arms. Somehow, she seems to know that falling is part of the learning process in her grand adventure of exploring the world, and she doesn't judge herself for slipping up along the way.
You can be like that too when you shift your thoughts away from the mishaps or disappointments and onto the opportunities you're getting to meet all kinds of new people...the interesting places you're going on various "meet-and-greets" and first dates...the fun groups and activities you're discovering in the world of singles. You see my point: You need to focus on the good stuff to stay positive and happy during the process because...
HAPPY PEOPLE ATTRACT OTHER HAPPY PEOPLE AND EXPERIENCES.
If you're not happy about what you're doing in your dating search, stop. Assess your attitude, change it if you need to, and start again on a new foot with a more-positive, forward-thinking outlook.
Nobody wants to be with someone who's despondent or negative about dating. Where's the fun in that? And, if I know anything, it's that dating is supposed to be fun--a way to enjoy yourself in the company of other singles to discover which ones you click with best.
If you're having trouble maintaining a positive attitude about dating, contact me so I can support you! (267-245-3023 or gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com)
I'm sure you can guess which ones are most likely to attract dating partners into your life.
But how often do you check in with yourself to assess your attitude and frame of mind about being in the dating world? How many times do you remember venturing out there with a downbeat persona because you weren't feeling very optimistic about your chances of success and the types of people you'd meet?
If your answer is "fairly often," you are your own worst enemy in your dating effort.
But I'm here to remind you that you can change that attitude...and ultimately have more good experiences than you've had up until now.
The secret? Shift your mind-set from dread to excitement by looking at the big picture: dating is an ADVENTURE that will teach you a lot about yourself, the opposite sex, and dating overall. And adventures can be fun, right? Right!
Think of a baby learning to walk. She takes a step or two and falls down. She gets up and takes another step or three and almost falls but manages to catch herself. She keeps trying over and over again. She doesn't focus on the falls. She keeps looking ahead of her.
She's just excited to be on her 2 feet walking on her own toward her dad's outstretched arms. Somehow, she seems to know that falling is part of the learning process in her grand adventure of exploring the world, and she doesn't judge herself for slipping up along the way.
You can be like that too when you shift your thoughts away from the mishaps or disappointments and onto the opportunities you're getting to meet all kinds of new people...the interesting places you're going on various "meet-and-greets" and first dates...the fun groups and activities you're discovering in the world of singles. You see my point: You need to focus on the good stuff to stay positive and happy during the process because...
HAPPY PEOPLE ATTRACT OTHER HAPPY PEOPLE AND EXPERIENCES.
If you're not happy about what you're doing in your dating search, stop. Assess your attitude, change it if you need to, and start again on a new foot with a more-positive, forward-thinking outlook.
Nobody wants to be with someone who's despondent or negative about dating. Where's the fun in that? And, if I know anything, it's that dating is supposed to be fun--a way to enjoy yourself in the company of other singles to discover which ones you click with best.
If you're having trouble maintaining a positive attitude about dating, contact me so I can support you! (267-245-3023 or gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com)
Friday, January 3, 2020
What's Your Dating INTENTION for 2020?
It's a new year--a time when many of us resolve to do better or be better than last year. Maybe for you, that applies to your dating life for 2020. If so, read on...
"A GOAL IS A DREAM WITH A DEADLINE." This is a quote I use often to motivate my coaching clients who have dreams they haven't taken action on yet.
It notes the importance of having a timetable if you want to realize a dream. You can't just daydream about it...you need to first name the steps necessary to achieve it and then put them on your calendar.
In other words, you need to be INTENTIONAL about reaching your goal.
Setting an intention is step 1 in achieving success of any kind. What do you intend to create in your life this year? And what is your desire for your dating life?
Sure, you could set an intention to meet the love of your life, but that doesn't just happen. It's the result of a series of actions you take to steer yourself in the right direction. For example, here are a few important ones:
1. Get my life in order (related to my career, home, family, finances, etc.) so I have the time, energy, and resources for socializing, attending singles events, and/or using online dating websites or other means of meeting people.
2. Create my "Partner Vision List" so I'm clear on the type of person I'm most compatible with.
3. Boost my confidence for presenting myself in the singles world.
4. Commit to spending a few hours a week focusing on the dating search process.
5. Find ways to make new single friends with whom I can attend events, so I feel supported in this endeavor and more motivated to follow through on a regular basis.
6. Research singles activities or hobby meetup groups in my area that I can join in my effort to cross paths with like-minded people who are available for dating.
7. Choose a dating website or two to join so I can contact people who look like a good match and set up some meet-and-greets.
These are steps I recommend to all my clients as they're entering or re-entering the dating world, and they are things I can help you with if you're not sure you can do them on your own.
Every intention needs a game plan/strategy in order to make it a reality. Once you have this, it'll be easier to focus on and eventually bring your dream to fruition.
OK...what's YOUR dating intention for the new year? Do you feel focused and organized and motivated enough to start right now?
If not, reach out to me. I'd be happy to:
1. Help you create your dating search strategy
2. Hold you accountable for it each step of the way
3. Watch you turn your intention into a happy new life with a wonderful partner!
What are you waiting for? Start your new year off right! Let's talk and get you going! (gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com or 267-245-3023)
"A GOAL IS A DREAM WITH A DEADLINE." This is a quote I use often to motivate my coaching clients who have dreams they haven't taken action on yet.
It notes the importance of having a timetable if you want to realize a dream. You can't just daydream about it...you need to first name the steps necessary to achieve it and then put them on your calendar.
In other words, you need to be INTENTIONAL about reaching your goal.
Setting an intention is step 1 in achieving success of any kind. What do you intend to create in your life this year? And what is your desire for your dating life?
Sure, you could set an intention to meet the love of your life, but that doesn't just happen. It's the result of a series of actions you take to steer yourself in the right direction. For example, here are a few important ones:
1. Get my life in order (related to my career, home, family, finances, etc.) so I have the time, energy, and resources for socializing, attending singles events, and/or using online dating websites or other means of meeting people.
2. Create my "Partner Vision List" so I'm clear on the type of person I'm most compatible with.
3. Boost my confidence for presenting myself in the singles world.
4. Commit to spending a few hours a week focusing on the dating search process.
5. Find ways to make new single friends with whom I can attend events, so I feel supported in this endeavor and more motivated to follow through on a regular basis.
6. Research singles activities or hobby meetup groups in my area that I can join in my effort to cross paths with like-minded people who are available for dating.
7. Choose a dating website or two to join so I can contact people who look like a good match and set up some meet-and-greets.
These are steps I recommend to all my clients as they're entering or re-entering the dating world, and they are things I can help you with if you're not sure you can do them on your own.
Every intention needs a game plan/strategy in order to make it a reality. Once you have this, it'll be easier to focus on and eventually bring your dream to fruition.
OK...what's YOUR dating intention for the new year? Do you feel focused and organized and motivated enough to start right now?
If not, reach out to me. I'd be happy to:
1. Help you create your dating search strategy
2. Hold you accountable for it each step of the way
3. Watch you turn your intention into a happy new life with a wonderful partner!
What are you waiting for? Start your new year off right! Let's talk and get you going! (gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com or 267-245-3023)
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