One of the top 5 things singles say they find attractive about dating prospects is an upbeat outlook on life. We can all agree it's nice to be around someone with a positive attitude...and a downer to be around someone who's negative.
But it can be hard to be upbeat in the age of COVID. Not only is fear about contracting the virus a factor, but a lot of folks struggle with adjusting to the limitations in their life brought on by social distancing and the resulting reduction in fun things to do. Maybe that describes you. I get it. It's hard to stay positive when there's so much uncertainty...and few things you can reliably look forward to right now.
So...what can you do to stave off despondency about the situation and keep your energy level high and your vibes positive so you can attract more dates? The answer is simple: extreme self-care and an injection of joy every day.
Extreme Self-Care
Doesn't it feel good to take really good care of yourself? Isn't every day more enjoyable when you're paying close attention to your self-care needs? And aren't your spirits and energy levels a lot better when you give yourself the TLC you need and deserve? Absolutely! That means eating delicious, healthy food; getting plenty of sleep; doing exercises you enjoy; spending quality time with friends and family; scheduling preventive healthcare visits; and planning relaxing, pampering activities like massages, hot baths, and manicures on a regular basis. When you do all these things consistently, you can't help but feel happier...which definitely takes your positive vibes up a notch.
Daily Joy Injections
Doing things that bring you joy naturally makes you feel and exude more joy--which, of course, makes you fun to be around. Yet you might be like a lot of people who fail to commit to doing this often enough to maintain a positive outlook. You get caught up in your day-to-day routine or life's inevitable challenges and don't notice that you haven't felt happy in a while. Or it's been a long time since you were excited or enthusiastic about something. That means it's time to inject some joy! Think about the activities, people, places, entertainment, projects, etc. that make you feel truly alive. Create a plan to put at least one of those into your life every single day.
OK, are you ready for "Positivity Bootcamp"? Here's your assignment:
Add self-care and joy to your daily to-do list if it's hard for you to prioritize these things. Do that for 2 weeks. Then, step back and see whether your attitude about life and dating is more positive than before. I bet it will be...which will make it a lot easier to attract the type of people you want to date.
If you need help making this 2-week commitment to yourself, give me a call. I'm here to support you.
267-245-3023 or gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com
