Friday, October 27, 2017


People tell me this all the time, both in my day-to-day life and in my dating coaching. They get disgusted after dates with two or three potential partners who either didn’t impress them, didn’t call for a second date, or didn't say yes to the second date. So they throw in the towel, give up, and say they’re done.

Big mistake!

That defeatist attitude will get them nowhere—except defeated. Whatever happened to the old adage “If at first you don’t succeed, try try again”? How many times in our lives—especially those of us who are in midlife—have we failed at something but then got “back up on the horse”, tried again, and ultimately succeeded? Plenty!

Think about your own track record of life successes. When something didn’t work out the first time, did you give up? If it was something you wanted badly, I bet you didn’t.

So, ask yourself this: How burning is your desire for a life partner? How much do you want to be in a relationship? How important is it to you to find the right person for you? Important enough to take the time, make the effort, and experience some setbacks along the way? I hope so. There’s nothing more fulfilling that sharing your life with one special person who supports, respects, admires, and loves you. Nothing!

If you’re like me, it was very important for me to find someone to share the ups and downs of my life…and thus to enrich it. And I’m really glad I kept going back “out there” into the dating world time after time—even after pretty devastating heartbreaks and disappointments.

I did it because I really believed I’d find a partner one day. I didn’t let my past define my future…and I urge my clients—and YOU—to do the same! That’s how I met the man I’m with today—absolutely the best match for me in every way.

Searching for dating partners is a journey, not a destination. There will be hills and valleys along the road...and, yes, it can take a long time. But it’s always worth it, especially if it leads you to your true love. As Diana Ross sang in the 60s, “You can’t hurry love. You just have to wait. They say love don’t come easy; it’s a game of give and take.”

My decades-long journey to the “right one” took me through two marriages, several serious relationships, and many short dating periods with a variety of guys. I don’t regret a minute of that journey because each encounter/relationship taught me valuable lessons about men, relationship dynamics, and myself. Talk about personal growth!!

Those lessons not only helped me “Be Who I Wanted to Attract” but also toughened up my skin so I could cope with the inevitable disappointments of the dating world without taking things personally and thus retain my self-esteem and confidence. 

If you love and respect yourself, are healed from past heartaches, and have a clear partner vision, you’re almost ready for dating. Now, you just need the positive attitude I’ve been talking about here…and maybe a little extra support and guidance from a “love coach”.
I’m happy to help! Let’s get started! Just email me at

Tuesday, October 10, 2017


Since most of my clients are single, divorced, or widowed women between age 55 and 75, many are not computer savvy. As a result, they're often nervous about the idea and logistics of putting a profile on an online dating site (about 50% need help with the technology itself-- i.e., how to move a digital photo from an email or a computer onto the dating site). Or they're nervous about privacy and security issues related to using the Internet.

It's my job to help them overcome the nervousness so they can successfully date online.

First of all, I completely understand single women's concerns and hesitancy about privacy/security, and I remember when I too was intimidated by the technical end of things. So I'm happy to guide them through the process in a way that puts their minds at ease and helps them feel more comfortable using the technology. Because I was an online dater for 4 years myself, I've learned a lot about how to help women use this excellent tool--and hopefully meet some nice men for dating.  

About privacy: Yes, Internet dating involves putting a photo of yourself "out there" online. Some women clients are nervous that bosses, coworkers, friends, neighbors, or family members will see the photo and judge them for being an online dater. I tell them there's a small chance of that happening, but it's pretty unlikely unless those same people are also using online dating sites. Plus, I ask them: "What's the problem if someone does see your photo online? It's your personal life and not anyone else's business to judge you."

About security: Yes, there are scammers on just about every online dating site (and lots of other non-dating websites for that matter). Online daters have to accept that as a given. So I offer them tips for detecting the "bad actors" and for protecting themselves from being scammed. I steer them to expert advice about keeping their information secure and avoiding problems.

About technology intimidation: Yes, it may take a while to get up to speed with the workings of the computer, downloading attachments from emails, and uploading photos to dating sites. But, once I coach clients through the steps, they usually pick things up pretty fast. And, if they don't want to learn, they can hire me to post their profile text and photos for them. 

Everyone is nervous when they try something new for the first time. That's why I encourage women to reach out to me for mentoring and guidance. I love to help single women seeking a partner learn the facts about what's involved and to be the moral supporter they need whenever they feel confused or unsure about next steps. If that's you, please don't hesitate to get in touch...I'm here for you!