Your Efforts to Understand the Opposite Sex Will Pay Off!

I just finished reading an excellent book called Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps: How we're different and what to do about it by Allan and Barbara Pease (published in 2000). What an eye opener!

The book describes the biological and evolutionary reasons for the differences between men and women in an entertaining, never clinical and boring, way. It goes far beyond the "cavemen were hunters; cavewomen were gatherers" thing we always hear. It calls men "lunch-chasers" and women "nest-defenders" and clearly explains that, because our modern brains are still wired that way, we differ in many essential ways we will never be able to change. 

Here are just a few of the hundreds of basic differences between men and women outlined in the book:

1) Men are stimulated through their eyes; women are stimulated through their ears.

2) Men want power, achievement, and sex; women want relationships, stability, and love.

3) A man's biological job is to find as many healthy females as possible and help them conceive to preserve the species; a woman's biological role is to bear children and find a partner who will stick around long enough to raise them. 

4) Men's sexual turn-ons are pornography, female nudity, sexual variety, lingerie, and the woman's availability; women's sexual turn-ons are romance, commitment, communication, intimacy, and nonsexual touching.

5) Men's private sexual fantasy is sex with a stranger; women's private sexual fantasy is sex in a public place.

6) Men solve their problems/handle their stress using internal talk and need peace and quiet to do that; women solve their problems/handle their stress using external talk and want others to talk with them. Unfortunately, both genders think the other is like them when, in truth, they are opposites.

Just by understanding these 6 biological facts and putting this knowledge into practice in their male-female relationships, I bet most of today's couples would find it a lot easier accept each other...and, as a result, would be a lot happier. What do you think?

P.S. I highly recommend picking up this book. You'll find it a fun & fascinating read that, I'm sure, will improve your relationships.