People tell me this all the time, both in
my day-to-day life and in my dating coaching. They get disgusted after dates
with two or three potential partners who either didn’t impress them, didn’t call
for a second date, or didn't say yes to the second date. So they throw in the towel, give up, and say they’re done.
Big mistake!
That defeatist attitude will get them
nowhere—except defeated. Whatever happened to the old adage “If at first you
don’t succeed, try try again”? How many times in our lives—especially those of
us who are in midlife—have we failed at something but then got “back up on the
horse”, tried again, and ultimately succeeded? Plenty!
Think about your own track record of life
successes. When something didn’t work out the first time, did you give up? If
it was something you wanted badly, I bet you didn’t.
So, ask yourself this: How burning is your
desire for a life partner? How much do you want to be in a relationship? How
important is it to you to find the right person for you? Important enough to take
the time, make the effort, and experience some setbacks along the way? I hope
so. There’s nothing more fulfilling that sharing your life with one special
person who supports, respects, admires, and loves you. Nothing!
If you’re like me, it was very important
for me to find someone to share the ups and downs of my life…and thus to enrich
it. And I’m really glad I kept going back “out there” into the dating world
time after time—even after pretty devastating heartbreaks and disappointments.
I did it because I really believed I’d find a
partner one day. I didn’t let my past define my future…and I urge my
clients—and YOU—to do the same! That’s how I met the man I’m with
today—absolutely the best match for me in every way.
Searching for dating partners is a journey,
not a destination. There will be hills and valleys along the road...and, yes, it
can take a long time. But it’s always worth it, especially if it leads you to
your true love. As Diana Ross sang in the 60s, “You can’t hurry love. You just
have to wait. They say love don’t come easy; it’s a game of give and take.”
My decades-long journey to the “right one”
took me through two marriages, several serious relationships, and many short
dating periods with a variety of guys. I don’t regret a minute of that journey because
each encounter/relationship taught me valuable lessons about men, relationship
dynamics, and myself. Talk about personal growth!!
Those lessons not only helped me “Be Who I
Wanted to Attract” but also toughened up my skin so I could cope with the
inevitable disappointments of the dating world without taking things personally
and thus retain my self-esteem and confidence.
If you love and
respect yourself, are healed from past heartaches, and have a clear partner
vision, you’re almost ready for dating. Now, you just need the positive
attitude I’ve been talking about here…and maybe a little extra support and
guidance from a “love coach”.
I’m happy to
help! Let’s get started! Just email me at gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com.
