Friday, April 23, 2010

WHAT KIND OF VIBES DO YOU GIVE OFF?

You know how sometimes you'll meet someone who just makes you feel uncomfortable? You can't explain it, but there's something that rubs you the wrong way...or that makes you think there's something strange going on under the surface. You just can't put your finger on it. That's what I would call "negative vibes."

Often unknown to the person, he or she is eminating a certain kind of vibration that others can pick up when they talk to them or are near them. Some of it is communicated through their body language, tone of voice, and attitude. But some of it is also the energetic frequency at which that person is "vibrating." Every person and creature has an energetic vibration, and when we're in a peaceful, happy place, we give off the highest, most-attractive vibes. In fact, research shows that love, gratitude, peace, joy, compassion, laughter, kindness, and truth are some of the highest vibrations...while hate, shame, anger, fear, judgment, mistrust, jealousy, and lying are the lowest.

So...what kind of vibes do you think people are picking up from you? Are you often in a negative or fearful place? Do you complain about the opposite sex a lot? Do you tend to focus on what's going wrong in the world or in your life? Or do you try to look at the bright side and focus on the good things that are happening? When you do the latter, you're much nicer to be around and much more fun to get to know.

This is why it's smart to catch yourself if you're stuck in a negative place and try to shift your energy to be more positive, upbeat, and optimistic...ESPECIALLY if you're out meeting new people in the dating world. Isn't it great when you meet somebody who seems to be happy, at peace, laughing and having fun, with a positive outlook on life? Sure! And wouldn't more people want to be with YOU if those were the vibes you were giving off more of the time? Absolutely!

Unfortunately, many of the single, divorced, and widowed people who come to me for dating coaching voice a lot of complaints about the opposite-gender people they're meeting online or at singles events. They spend 80% of their time focusing on what they see as the subpar quality of the folks they're encountering, and then they wonder why they keep attracting more of the same.

The reason is that their thoughts are creating their reality. The more they think and believe that "there are no good men out there," the more low-quality men they find. What they believe they receive.

How about you? Do you believe there are some wonderful, big-hearted, high-quality prospects out there in the singles world...and it's just a matter of time until you meet somebody who'd be just right for you? Or have you concluded that--if they even exist--it's really hard to find such people, and you think the chances of your meeting them are small to nil? If you're stuck in this spiral of negative thinking, know that you CAN change it...but only if you make up your mind to and have a strong daily intention. If you need help with that, drop me a line. I'd love to help.

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