For Single Guys Who Want a Valentine

Happy Valentine's Day 2019! It's the day to celebrate love in all its forms--for yourself, your kids, your parents, your coworkers, your neighbors, your pets, your friends, and your girlfriend or partner (if you have one). But what if you don't?

Today's blog is for single, divorced, and widowed men who are wishing that they had a special woman to call their Valentine--someone to wake up with, do fun things with, eat meals with, kiss before and after a long day at work, travel with, pamper, and hold in your arms as you're falling asleep each night. Wouldn't that be nice?

After many years of post-divorce dating myself and then 13 years coaching men and women over 40 who are searching in the dating world for that special someone, I know one thing for sure:

It's sometimes hard for men to reach out for help in this area of life, even if they realize the things they're doing to meet women aren't working. 

I understand, guys. It doesn't feel right to ask for assistance with something that society assumes men are good at--attracting women. You want to project a strong, confident image...and you think you should just "know" what to do.

But, as the years pass, youth fades, and our "baggage" take its toll, we all start to wonder if we still have what it takes to appeal to the opposite sex. And it's especially challenging for men because they sometimes struggle to understand women and to know how to approach, talk to, and impress them. 

That's when a female dating coach can be invaluable.

Maybe you've wondered how to strike up a conversation with (or write an email to) a new woman in person (or on an Internet dating site)--which is what you need to do to get the ball rolling. Well, the answer is simple: give her a sincere compliment.

Women love it when a man notices and gives her a compliment related to her smile, her eyes, her voice, her friendliness, her intellect, or even the way she dances (if you happen to meet her at a dance). 

Here are some other examples:
- If you meet her at a hiking group, you could compliment her on her energy level, the great hiking boots she chose, or her knowledge of trails and parks in the area. 
- If you meet her at a kid- or teen-related activity such as a play, concert, or sporting event, you could ask her about and/or compliment her son's or daughter's abilities/talent. Women really like a man who is sincerely interested in and gives positive feedback about her children. 
- If you meet her at a business function, ask her about or compliment her on  her career path and/or her professional skills.
- If you see her on an online dating site, write a 3- or 4-sentence email complimenting her on something she said in her own words about her passions, aspirations, family, career, or hobbies.

You get the idea. It's all about communicating to her that you want to learn more about her as a person and get to know her better. That's what dating is for. It's a getting-to-know-you process that builds from a foundation of initial attraction and true curiosity--and ultimately reveals areas of commonality that could potentially create a bond and be the basis of a budding new relationship. 

Hopefully, this blog has given you enough ideas so you'll feel more comfortable approaching women you're attracted to. If you want more ideas or a supportive person to get you jump-started, drop me a line (gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com or 267-245-3023). 

I'm here to answer all your questions about women and dating...so maybe this time next year you can spend Valentine's Day with a really great girl!