Are You Confident Enough to See Yourself as "Dateable"?

Before the first session with new dating coaching clients, I send out a short form that asks them "What are your best qualities?" and "What makes you fun on a date?" This is a first step in assessing the level of confidence they feel--whether they honestly see themselves as "dateable"--as someone others would want to spend time with.

I do this because CONFIDENCE IS THE #1 FACTOR FOR SUCCESSFUL DATING. And singles who aren't strong in this area need to boost their confidence before even starting to think about searching for dates. Here are 3 ways I help them do that:

Confidence Booster 1--I urge clients to list the things they like or have been complimented on regarding their looks, personality, talents, accomplishments and passions. This helps them start off on a positive note--seeing themselves as "a great catch." Go ahead and try it--either on your own or with someone who knows you really well. You may be surprised at what a great list you come up with! 

Those who can easily make this list are likely to do pretty well attracting quality people for dating. But those who have trouble with it are less likely to succeed. I work with those folks to create the list together, writing everything down, and I ask them to focus on the list every day to remind themselves of what's unique and lovable about them.

Confidence Booster 2--I also encourage clients to get more comfortable talking to new people wherever they go, so that'll be easier in the dating world too (at both singles events and first in-person meetings after connecting online).

I suggest they try to reach out to new folks in their daily life with eye contact, a warm smile and a sincere compliment--whether it's the cashier at the grocery, the clerk at the post office, the receptionist at the dentist...whoever. The more practice they get with interrelating with random people, the less intimidated they'll feel initiating conversations with other singles.

Confidence Booster 3--Lastly, I suggest that clients take good care of themselves physically and emotionally by exercising and eating well, prioritizing their own needs, using only kind self-talk, and wearing clothes they feel good in. That way, they can walk confidently into any room or situation with an authentic smile and their head held high.

How can anyone resist that kind of confidence?!     

If your confidence needs some fine-tuning before you take the first step into dating, let me know. I'd be happy to support you with all these confidence-boosting activities. :-)
(gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com or 267-245-3023)