Confident Enough to Talk to a Complete Stranger?

Are you a great catch? Feel you have something to offer a future partner? Are you secure enough in yourself to KNOW someone out there would love to date you and develop a relationship with you?

If not, you're not ready to venture into the dating world. Why? 

Because it takes a lot of confidence to email complete strangers on an online dating site or approach people you don't know at singles events.

Many single, divorced, and widowed people who hire me as their dating coach don't have that confidence. They THINK they're ready to search for and be seen by potential dates. But they're not. 

They're hesitant, insecure, or downright fearful about presenting themselves. Some worry about their looks; some don't what to say to dating prospects in an email or in person; and others are afraid about the types of people they'll encounter or whether anyone will like them. Seriously. 

What's baffling is that many of these people are successful baby boomers with great qualities who've had wonderful relationships in the past. But now, for a variety of reasons, they lack the confidence to try to connect with new people without worrying about rejection. (Rejection, of course, is just a natural part of the dating process--you'll reject some folks who aren't good matches, and you'll be rejected by others who don't think you're their "cup of tea". That's just the way it is.) 

The key to dating world success is not to take rejection personally. Simply move on and keep looking. You do that by seeing rejection in a more-positive light. As I tell my clients, "You just screened out a non-match, so now you have the time, energy, and freedom to find a good match."

Yes, it takes confidence and a really good sense of self to "put yourself out there" and then to handle being rejected and also to figure out how to reject others kindly--whether it's online or at singles events or hobby activity groups. But, if you want to meet someone to date and/or fall in love with, you'll have to strengthen your confidence.

If you need support in doing that, contact me (267-245-3023 or gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com). I've helped hundreds of people see themselves more positively, believe in their "dateability", and grow in self-esteem and self-love..so they can march confidently into the singles world and attract great people for dating. 

I'm confident you can do it too!!