In the 11 years I've been a dating coach, I've always had over 90% female clients. Where are the men and why do they hesitate to use a coach? They're OK with reaching out to executive coaches for support with business advancement or sports coaches to help them improve in the world of sports.
So why do they hesitate to ask for support in attracting women in the world of dating? I did some research on this and found some fascinating facts about single men:
1) They think they should know how to get the girl without help. Even in the 21st century, ancient, irrelevant norms are subconsciously running the show. Men (the "hunters") still believe they're expected to go out and drag home the women (the "gatherers"). It's assumed that all men know just how to do that instinctively, because they're men. As one female dating coach puts it, "We expect every man to graduate high school with a PhD in courtship." That, of course, is unrealistic. Even the best of us can benefit from getting help to fine-tune our skills or jump-start us when we're a little "rusty" at something.
2) They're uncomfortable with the word "coach". They think using a coach means they're incompetent or unskilled in courtship. That implies that someone else is better at dating than they are. Thus, another female coach uses the term "dating optimizer" or "love adjuster" instead of dating coach--to imply that she's just there to help the guys up their game and be more competitive. In truth, women dating coaches help single men learn the rules of the dating game from a female perspective, which GREATLY increases their chances of winning over the girl!
3) They mistakenly believe their status/success should be enough to attract a partner. Unfortunately, in 2017, women are seeking many other qualities in a date, life partner, or husband (i.e., caring, compassion, and companionship, to name a few). However, in public, many men whose status isn't attracting quality women assume something is wrong with the women. Inside themselves, though, they start to feel something may be wrong with them. So they shut themselves off at the office or at home, using the excuse that they're too busy or tired at the end of the night to meet anyone. This is a recipe for failure, and, as a result, many will go years or even decades without a date.
If you're a guy or you know one who's not meeting his kind of women for dating, a session with a dating expert is worth considering. Here are the most helpful services she offers:
- help writing an online dating profile that women will like and respond to
- help understanding women and the psychology of attraction
- help figuring out how he can stand out from the crowd of other guys competing for the women he wants
- help to prevent falling into the "friend zone"
- help overcoming anxiety about approaching and talking to women
- help bringing out his funny, charismatic, confident self to attract more women
- help navigating the dating process from "small talk to seduction"
Ready for more success with women? I'm here to help!
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