Thursday, March 16, 2017

Guys: Finding It Challenging Writing Your Online Dating Profile?

If so, you're not alone. Help writing profiles is the #1 reason clients hire me as their dating coach.

I know it's not easy writing about yourself, much less trying to come across as confident and interesting without being arrogant. 

Where do you begin when an online dating site asks you to describe yourself in just a few paragraphs? What do you say so you sound like a unique person whose had an interesting life and would be fun to date? It can be quite a challenge, especially if you're not comfortable with writing in general.  

That's where a professional coach who's also a professional marketing writer comes in. I can compose those paragraphs about you in no a way that highlights your best qualities, conveys a bit of your personality, AND sounds appealing to women.

A Pew Study in late 2013 found that 30% of women asked someone else to help write or review their dating profile compared to just 16% of men. 

Why? Because men fear looking incompetent. And so they struggle trying to write something that will impress women--unaware that their inexperience in this arena could be sabotaging them. Women clients tell me (and I noticed when I was reading guys' profiles online) that men often say very little about themselves, have a simplistic writing style, don't really know how to express things clearly, or make spelling/grammar mistakes. Or all of the above. And so, unfortunately, a man may come across to women reading his profile as bored, boring, or uneducated--even if he's one of the most intelligent, successful, fascinating guys around.

The solution? I have 2 suggestions:
1) Ask a woman to either help write or at the very least read your profile before you post it. You could talk to your sister, your daughter, a female friend or coworker--anyone who knows you pretty well and whose opinion you trust. Get her take on whether what you wrote is accurate about you and presents you in the best light. And, most important of all: Does the description sound like someone she'd consider dating? A female dating expert is also a good choice as a sounding board or writing assistant .

2) Attend a how-to workshop or seminar about writing a  winning profile. (Ask me when my next one is happening.)

If you need a few tips on writing a profile women will love, drop me a line. I'd be happy to write or critique your profile to ensure it makes you stand out with the ladies...and gets you started dating quality women right away!

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