What kinds of "vibes" are you putting out into the world when you think about dating? Positive or negative? Optimistic or pessimistic? Enthusiasm or dread?
I'm sure you can guess which ones are most likely to attract dating partners into your life.
But how often do you check in with yourself to assess your attitude and frame of mind about being in the dating world? How many times do you remember venturing out there with a downbeat persona because you weren't feeling very optimistic about your chances of success and the types of people you'd meet?
If your answer is "fairly often," you are your own worst enemy in your dating effort.
But I'm here to remind you that you can change that attitude...and ultimately have more good experiences than you've had up until now.
The secret? Shift your mind-set from dread to excitement by looking at the big picture: dating is an ADVENTURE that will teach you a lot about yourself, the opposite sex, and dating overall. And adventures can be fun, right? Right!
Think of a baby learning to walk. She takes a step or two and falls down. She gets up and takes another step or three and almost falls but manages to catch herself. She keeps trying over and over again. She doesn't focus on the falls. She keeps looking ahead of her.
She's just excited to be on her 2 feet walking on her own toward her dad's outstretched arms. Somehow, she seems to know that falling is part of the learning process in her grand adventure of exploring the world, and she doesn't judge herself for slipping up along the way.
You can be like that too when you shift your thoughts away from the mishaps or disappointments and onto the opportunities you're getting to meet all kinds of new people...the interesting places you're going on various "meet-and-greets" and first dates...the fun groups and activities you're discovering in the world of singles. You see my point: You need to focus on the good stuff to stay positive and happy during the process because...
HAPPY PEOPLE ATTRACT OTHER HAPPY PEOPLE AND EXPERIENCES.
If you're not happy about what you're doing in your dating search, stop. Assess your attitude, change it if you need to, and start again on a new foot with a more-positive, forward-thinking outlook.
Nobody wants to be with someone who's despondent or negative about dating. Where's the fun in that? And, if I know anything, it's that dating is supposed to be fun--a way to enjoy yourself in the company of other singles to discover which ones you click with best.
If you're having trouble maintaining a positive attitude about dating, contact me so I can support you! (267-245-3023 or gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com)
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