It's a new year--a time when many of us resolve to do better or be better than last year. Maybe for you, that applies to your dating life for 2020. If so, read on...
"A GOAL IS A DREAM WITH A DEADLINE." This is a quote I use often to motivate my coaching clients who have dreams they haven't taken action on yet.
It notes the importance of having a timetable if you want to realize a dream. You can't just daydream about it...you need to first name the steps necessary to achieve it and then put them on your calendar.
In other words, you need to be INTENTIONAL about reaching your goal.
Setting an intention is step 1 in achieving success of any kind. What do you intend to create in your life this year? And what is your desire for your dating life?
Sure, you could set an intention to meet the love of your life, but that doesn't just happen. It's the result of a series of actions you take to steer yourself in the right direction. For example, here are a few important ones:
1. Get my life in order (related to my career, home, family, finances, etc.) so I have the time, energy, and resources for socializing, attending singles events, and/or using online dating websites or other means of meeting people.
2. Create my "Partner Vision List" so I'm clear on the type of person I'm most compatible with.
3. Boost my confidence for presenting myself in the singles world.
4. Commit to spending a few hours a week focusing on the dating search process.
5. Find ways to make new single friends with whom I can attend events, so I feel supported in this endeavor and more motivated to follow through on a regular basis.
6. Research singles activities or hobby meetup groups in my area that I can join in my effort to cross paths with like-minded people who are available for dating.
7. Choose a dating website or two to join so I can contact people who look like a good match and set up some meet-and-greets.
These are steps I recommend to all my clients as they're entering or re-entering the dating world, and they are things I can help you with if you're not sure you can do them on your own.
Every intention needs a game plan/strategy in order to make it a reality. Once you have this, it'll be easier to focus on and eventually bring your dream to fruition.
OK...what's YOUR dating intention for the new year? Do you feel focused and organized and motivated enough to start right now?
If not, reach out to me. I'd be happy to:
1. Help you create your dating search strategy
2. Hold you accountable for it each step of the way
3. Watch you turn your intention into a happy new life with a wonderful partner!
What are you waiting for? Start your new year off right! Let's talk and get you going! (gayle@datingsuccesscoaching.com or 267-245-3023)
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